In the Tarot, one of the most feared
cards is the Death card, at least to
those who don't understand the
meaning of the card, which is "change."
Experiencing change - part 2
A big part of change is moving into closure. And closure can’t be achieved without an introduction. We can’t finish what we never acknowledge.
One way to respond to change is with anger, because we see change as being forced on us. Even if we are the one leaving a job or a relationship, we feel as though we’re only doing it because something wasn’t going right. If someone else would do it right, damn it, we wouldn’t have to leave. For people who feel this way, change is a victimization process where something is wrong.
Many people do not have a concept that change can be positive. It’s something forced upon them in reaction to a series of events.
In the Tarot, one of the most feared
cards is the Death card, at least to
those who don't understand the
meaning of the card,
which is "change."
When we confront change, we’re thrown back into the unknown space that makes us feel quite fragile and quite overwhelmed. If you can find ways to make yourself feel safe, and find groups that can support you in change then it’s going to be a lot easier to go through it. Otherwise, our subconscious will do it for us. Some people get sick when going through change because with such high levels of anxiety, getting sick was the gentlest way of getting through change. They’re too sick to give a damn and they won’t fight it. If they were completely well and conscious they would have had one anxiety attack after another. The illness isn’t a punishment – it’s actually a more gentle approach to change than we take ourselves through
Once we can learn to feel safe inside our heart connection we go more quickly through change.
Another aspect to consider is that the journey of self-awareness is almost totally made up of figuring out the right questions. We’re given answers all the time, every day, but they mean nothing if we don’t know the question. If you can figure out what question to ask, then you end up finding awareness that change your life.
Many people start a question with “I know this sounds stupid…” or “You’re probably going to think I’m crazy…” or “I know this might sound nuts…” What has gone on in our culture that we are so uneasy about not knowing? Why are we so uneasy about letting someone know that we don’t know?
Spirit has set it up so that we have to risk it. You’ve got to risk it by putting the question out there, by putting words to it. Start listening to yourself. Are you preceding the mystery of your exploration with statements that say you haven’t been valued or taken seriously? That you have been made fun of? That’s going to tell you a lot about how you’re going to respond to change.
Many of our old beliefs do not incorporate that change is natural, positive, normal or sought after. If the name of the spiritual game is transformation, which is another word for change, it would make sense that we need to find a belief system that normalizes change. Then we can understand that we have what it takes on the inside to deal with it. We’re designed to do it. It’s not a mistake.
Change is one of the most sacred things we can go through. The last thing we want to do is victimize each other and ourselves about the changes that are happening.